By: Chris Martin
One of the best decisions I have ever made is to have a “mentor” of sorts in my life at all times. Now, notice I call this person a “mentor,” and not a “pastor,” “
This wording is intentional and important.
I always have a “mentor” because the person who mentors me isn’t necessarily
I hope that my mentor is always pushing me to be more like Christ, but this often takes form in a variety of ways.
I have had a mentor since at least high school that I meet with regularly. I had one in high school, a different one in college, and a different one now in my role at LifeWay and in life in general.
I have always treasured my relationship with these guys, and I would not be any sort of respectable person today without them.
You need a mentor if you don’t have one. Here are three reasons why I think you need to find a mentor TODAY if you don’t have one yet:
Mentors keep you humble
One of the most significant ways my mentors have impacted me is by keeping me humble. This usually happens in two ways:
1) my mentor explicitly says something like, “Get off your high horse,” and/or
2) my mentor exceeds me in whatever area in which he is mentoring me.
This active and passive humbling has had a significant effect on me. I, like many, have prideful tendencies, and it is crucial that I have people in my life to humble me.
My wife does this regularly, and I’m thankful for that. Mentors do this well, too. If you need to be humbled, you should look to a mentor.
Mentors keep you accountable
“Accountability” comes in a variety of forms, doesn’t it? You can be held accountable for sin, for spiritual disciplines like Bible reading, for work activity, for marital issues, and more.
Over the years, as I’ve changed mentors when I’ve moved, all of my mentors have held me accountable in one area or the other.
In high school, my mentor held me accountable for my sin and my spiritual disciplines. In college, my mentor held my mind accountable, meaning he pushed me academically (he was one of my professors). He also held my attitude accountable, calling me out when I was a jerk.
Finally, he acted as an incredibly helpful sounding board for a whole host of topics—everything from personal finance to marriage preparation.
Mentors keep you honest. Mentors keep you in check. This may make you uncomfortable, but it is vitally important.
Mentors keep you motivated
I detest running, but I exercise regularly, lifting weights, walking, running, and all of that. A few Thanksgivings ago, when I did one of those Turkey Trot races, my brother pushed me to run faster than I usually do. He motivated me to improve.
Mentors can be great partners in all areas of work and life. The primary focus of the mentoring relationship I'm in right now is writing. My mentor is lightyears better at writing than I am, and he pushes me constantly to be a better thinker and a better writer.
This keeps me motivated.
Do you have a mentor? Why not? You should. Find one today. You can’t afford
Find one that can speak to all areas of your life if possible, keeping you accountable spiritually and in all other areas.
At the very least, find someone who can keep you humble and help you better follow Christ.